Wisdom for a Daughter
Shall we re-write Proverbs?
Posted
Saturday, September 30, 2006
by
Sam Yeiter
My daughter is at an age and point of receptivity where I have begun to consider teaching her about wisdom. The automatic textbook that sprung to my mind is the book of Proverbs. I am wondering, however, if perhaps I need to do some rewriting. Read on if you dare (especially if you have a daughter!).
What I mean is this. Proverbs was written to a young man, and thus the examples and metaphors are written for a male. For example: Folly is an adulterous harlot trying to ensnare the young one. This doesn’t make quite as much sense when the young one is suddenly a girl. Wisdom is a woman that the young one ought to court and engage/marry as an appropriate lover. This becomes fairly disturbing when the young one is a girl (since I believe homosexuality is not only sin, but folly). Within this same context sensual enjoyment of the wife is encouraged.
As one moves further in Proverbs, it talks about how hard it is to find a good woman, and of how much value one is. Now certainly it is good for a girl to hear this, but certainly she should also hear how hard it is to find a worthy husband and of how much value he is. Don’t forget the passages that talk about the dripping of a nagging wife and the pleasant spot on the corner of the roof she encourages the man to visit. And finally, the girl, when she has slogged her way through the book, gets blasted with the impossible comparison and books her accommodations for a life-long guilt trip, courtesy of The Incredible Proverbs 31 Woman.
Obviously there is always a level of exegesis/hermeneutics and the application of scripture that needs to cross both cultural and gender boundaries, but the proverbs seem somehow different. When I read the passages about folly being a lady of the night, plying her wares, it seems as though there is very little work needing to be done to apply it to myself. I can basically read it as though it were written to me. A girl cannot do this. Should we re-write Proverbs? Try this on…
Proverbs 5:15-20 15 Drink water from your own springs And fresh water from your own streams. 16 Should your cistern be dispersed abroad, Wells of water in the streets? 17 Let them be yours alone And not for strangers with you. 18 Let your water tower be blessed, And rejoice in the husband of your youth. 19As a studly stag and a manly mustang, Let his pectorals (should this be biceps?) satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with his love. 20 For why should you, my daughter, be exhilarated with an adulterer, and embrace the pecs (or biceps) of a foreigner?
I don’t actually plan to do this, but I wanted to say that I think fathers of boys have it easier when it comes to teaching wisdom from the Proverbs. Also, I am curious if anyone thinks such a re-write (assuming the daughter understands that is a re-write, and that it is done seriously) has any place or value in the instruction of young girls.
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